Me doing Mr Bean whilst teaching Reflective Repatterning

We all have areas of vulnerability. I have certainly had mine. Yet vulnerability can actually make us more loveable. Because we all have different vulnerabilities we so often don’t understand others, maybe we say ” I don’t understand why they are bothered about this or that etc” yet at the same time those people will wonder about our vulnerabilities and  may think ” well that wouldn’t bother me at all”.

Because vulnerability is unqiue to each person, it so often becomes part of their character of who we love, we are able to reassure them give them a hug, it helps with interactions.

Yet vulnerability can also bring us down, it can make us anxious, stressed depressed. However it can also bring us dramatic positive change. When we think about our vulnerability, our body will signal an emotional reaction or anxiety signal like butterflies in our stomach or a tightness in chest, perhaps our body will tighten and create tension, maybe we sweat or heart rate pulses, the body is signalling there is something we are not happy about in our lives, we have several choices here. We can shut off thinking about it ignore it shovel it away, or we can continually fear it, or begin to heal it stage by stage to begin to love it.


What made me vulnerable, well many things years ago, but later on in life my sexuality, I wasn’t comfortable with all of my straight friends knowing I was gay, a good friend once said hey, chris we love you for who you are your gay and don’t change that or you wouldn’t be you anymore, this shocked me,and spurned me on with the Reflective Repatterning’s laws of opposites with the use of a fridge magnet, to bring a boyfriend to the party. I had been ocd to this issue going to amazing lengths to hide my vulnerability and control my obsessive excessive thoughts and reactions behaviors and anxiety feelings. Even tough I had made so many improvements elsewhere in my emotional issues. When we begin to love our vulnerability, all that we have to learn in life begins to unfold, people loved that I was bothered about not upsetting people with my sexuality but they loved it even more when I resonated happiness and became an example to their vulnerabilities. Everybody gained a new fun friend too.

There are many ways I work to heal peoples vulnerabilities, but the first job is to recognise them, list them, and work with them in the order of importance to you.

Vulnerability offers a choice, a pathway of continual fear and avoidance, or a new path of new experiences, adding to our magnet of attracting good fun into our lives. Vulnerability signals these choices.

I hope this blog inspires people to learn from their vulnerabilities and to embrace them in a positive way.


Feel free to use the contact page on this website, and chris will be happy to answer questions, and may offer to call you, listen to your story, and offer insights.