The Mirror Brain Stare


Avoid if under psychiatric care, or if needing or seeking that type of care. If unsure contact your Doctor or Psychiatrist first.

To connect deeply into your Spiritual self, and gain understandings view old memories and connect with your self deeply. Just take a mirror, keep your head absolutely relaxed but still, and with both eyes, stare into the mirror into just one eye. Stay with your eyes fixed looking into the reflection of your eye, and just keep at it, maybe five minutes will pass or more before things begin to happen. Common occurences are a deep connection to feelings and or thoughts, processing of thoughts and feelings may occur, old memories may flood in and then calm, emotions and thoughts may intensify and then  they get processed and all begins to calm. Often people get new understandings of self and or others. What needs to be processed will get surfaced. Some people will gain physical changes in the body as the brain lets go of stress the body relaxes, the body may well let go of old tight tense holding patterns. Having some body work like Massage Shiatsu Bowen or Rolfing can further assist these old stuck states let go.

Sometimes scary memories come up, and that is because different parts of the brain hold onto certain memories traumas fears anxieties, and our eyes locate these areas, as we hold our eyes in  a fixed position, it’s like the handle to the flood gates allowing the stress to just leave. Things will always calm again if you stay with it.


The eyes are known as the doorway to the soul, so this exercise is not just for emotional healings but also spiritual understandings.

Many people externally focus on others making people gurus and heroes, putting people on  a pedestal, people they admire because they have characteristics we do not. So looking in to our eyes, helps us observe ourselves our vulnerabilities and strengths, the strengths may strengthen even more and the vulnerabilities so often get a healing.

Many people will do the Mirror Brain Stare for forty minutes or an hour or so, a minimum time is generally ten or fifteen minutes, however do try, and another day try the other eye, for a different experience.

Feel free to contact me through the contact page on this website.


best wishes chris Milbank

Brain Stare Testimonial

C lair Brain Stare pictureA lady wrote to me about her Brain Stare experience she had read the blog, but didn’t believe it fully.
Here is how the story goes (yes I have permission to share).

On Friday I was having suicidal and self harm thoughts; I wasn’t making plans to end it all, but nevertheless the thoughts were there, just coursing a long, which wasn’t pleasant even if i wasn’t going to act on them. Self harm is something I’ve not done in years, either, but it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t come to mind sometimes (more often than I’d like), like Friday.

It’s true that the past is over, but what’s scary is if the past was bad, and the future looks just like the past. That is not a good situation to feel you are in; it doesn’t leave you with many options.

I couldn’t stop myself thinking, and nothing I did made me feel any better, and it felt like I was bouncing between my thoughts, all of which were making me feel worse and worse. I have trained in various modalities, and none of them seemed to work on Friday. In desperation I also tried self medicating with prescription, non prescription medication, including painkillers, herbs. Nothing in that I tried helped, either.

So, in desperation I tried Brain Staring. I did not really know what to treat – it is not like I had just one incident I could focus on and say that was the cause of my problems, there were lots of things I could try and work on, but nothing that was obviously the cause of my problems, as I just felt bad and the future looked bad, too. The future being bleak was the very worst aspect of it all . I did not need to focus in on how I was feeling, as I was feeling it so strongly. So I lay down on the settee, and looked around for where things felt better or worse. Top right felt better, and it seemed that the left was worse, bottom left seemed to be the worst of the worst, but not hugely so. I figured I would try the bottom left, and if it didn’t do anything, I could change.

I remembered it’s important to stare at something, so I found something on the floor to look at, I had plenty of choice (being untidy has it’s advantages), and positioned myself so that I could stare at a sock on the floor and turned the sound off on the telly, and turned so I couldn’t see it how I was sat. I didn’t turn the telly off because i felt so bad I didn’t want to be alone, and at least the telly was there to distract me if it hadn’t worked and I needed distracting.

I started staring, and slowly memories came to mind, and after a few minutes I started yawning a few times. Some of the memories did not seem at all traumatic to me, and other ones were not so good. But even the ones that weren’t good seemed to come and go and partway through focusing on them, they’d go, and I would have to think “what was I just thinking about”. They’d then bring up another memory. It seems that my brain wanted to work on things going back early, but it would sometimes leap about, ie bringing up more recent stuff, sometimes with no obvious links. After sometime, I thought about 10 minutes, I was getting a bit restless and couldn’t concentrate so much – I looked at the telly and found that the program I was watching had changed – surprisingly, over an hour had gone by. I think I might have been in an altered consciousness state.

After a break, I restarted my Brain staring, as I felt calmer. The distress was now less, perhaps 6/10, whereas when I started, I felt like a 10/10. I did another hour, and this took me up to early in the morning. I think I had dreams about what I had been working on. I was going to write about what had came up as I treated, as it seemed important at the time, but it doesn’t feel important now.

It was surprising that I remembered things I had completely forgotten, and which had not surfaced in other modalities. Also surprisingly was I ended up thinking about someone who was well-known, and who I had known of but not thought of in years and years since their death in fact when i saw it mentioned on telly. I googled their story, and found that their story served like a healing metaphor, and reinforced changes i had wanted to make, to get rid of stuff – opposites? His story was the opposite of what i wanted to change.

Today, I feel calmer. I still have other stuff left to work on, but whereas Friday I was feeling horrible, today I feel quite a lot better, and things are quieter, and today things have come up, lots of random memories just cropping up when i’m going about my day – they seem to come and go without processing. ”


How To Use Brain Stare

chris Milbank meIf you want a very powerful way to unleash stress from the brain that is simple to use, that you can do on yourself at home lying down, then this is the tool to use. There are two categories where people fail, they over complicate it, and or they have no patience.


All you have to do is think of an issue that is bothering you, this maybe an old trauma, illness symptoms, anxiety, rejection, feeling trapped, shock, or any amount of fears phobias hurt etc. Then sit or lie down, and very slowly move your eyes from one position to the other, until you either and or sense more stress, emotion, tension or focus in a certain point. This is a point that the eyes are linked to a certain part of the brain that holds the stress. Keep your eyes fixed on that point exactly maybe there is a small mark on the wall or ceiling you are looking at, now you can blink, but stay focused on just that point. Yes if you are literally following these instructions you are doing it right, there are no but’s or exceptions just follow these instructions.

Now as you stare, just stay with it ignore those thoughts am I doing this right (yes you are, simple as that). Keep staring after 5 minutes or more thoughts and feelings old memories may surface, keep staring, it can get quite intense, maybe anxiety will surface or your body will shake, or emotions and intense memories surface, stay with this, eventually they may calm down, keep staring for at least 5 minutes after everything has calmed down, because you may experience the next wave of emotion surfacing or memories etc. When you get to the point of everything calmed down and you have waited 5 minutes and your at peace, you may relax and normalise your eye movement, this point may take anything from 15 minutes to an hour and a half to achieve. However long it takes, it takes, each issue and each person will be different. You should then at a time when you have time think of the same issue again, and again move your eyes very slowly to different positions and notice whether your brain  holds the same issues or connected issues in other areas, if so repeat the same old exercise again when you have time. 


Please see my original blog, on how I discovered this whilst playing with some self correcting Neuro feedback device caled P Roshi, and how although I discovered this in my own way, it was also discovered before by David Grand who called his version Brain Spotting.


Warning when you practice this Technique and keep it simple ie just stare, throw away your doubt and just do, it can be so very powerful you will unlock Brain Stress by the bucket load. Remember if you have been ill, there will be a lot of stress involved and may take several hours of clearing, which you can do step by step over days and weeks, you may well be surprised what has been linked to your illness, and what some of the emotional triggers are.


Please feel free to use the contact page on this website to ask questions.

Many thanks chris Milbank